how familiar are you with command line/terminal? If so, log off, and re-logon. Open terminal, enter this command:
cd
pwd
this should show you s.th. like /Users//Users/<username>
.
Then go to this directory:
cd /Users//Library/Application Support/Bitcoin
cd /Users/<username>/Library/Application Support/Bitcoin
and see whats in there. The file called wallet.dat is what you are looking for. Alternativly you can try to navigate to this location in finder, you would need to hold the ALT key, to get the "Library" folder displayed in the "go to" menu...