I started up Bisq today. It had a pop-up (one of countless over the years...) with elaborate instructions on how to "upgrade Tor v2 addresses to v3". This involved shutting down Bisq, deleting a dir and then starting it back up again.
IIUC, this pop-up was added in https://github.com/bisq-network/bisq/pull/5573 to help users. If you have issues or any suggestions, feel free to contribute by creating issues or pull requests in Bisq repository.
Do Bitcoiners secretly want Bitcoin to stay obscure?
Nobody can answer this question and it does not make sense. There is no "the bitcoin community", there are lots of people in different communities associated with bitcoin. They can have different opinions on things.
Bisq, after all, is crucial in its role as the only non-KYC, decentralized Bitcoin exchange in the world. (Seriously, it is the only one. If you don't get that, I don't have the time to convince you otherwise.)
You should also research about Bisq development. It is similar to other FOSS projects and even has a DAO.