I run a full node on my Raspberry Pi at home. I want a desktop wallet that uses this full node. Not interested in using remote-x or xpra or setting up an electrum server.
There are a few android wallets that can. For desktop i guess you could run a bitcoin-qt in pruning and blockonly mode to make it as lightweight as possible. Make a whitelisted connection to your full node (possibly over Tor if you're not at home).
Maybe the Neutrino medium weight client (no experience though).
armory or msigna could probably connect to it.